It’s okay in fact it’s more than okay.

I haven’t written about my grief journey for awhile. Partly because I don’t want to come across as a pity party, I have also been busy doing some fab courses that have helped me and, in turn, I’m hoping will help you. In the months following Julian dying, I received Reiki. I cannot explain why …

What I am learning about grief

Friends and acquaintances have told me that my musings around my breast cancer journey have been helpful, and it is with this in mind that I thought I would share my thoughts and life around grief. My two favourite books as a child were The story of Babar and Heidi. These books were unwittingly my …

Understanding grief

Put yourself in someone else’s shoes

It’s coming up to a year since Julian passed and what a year it has been.Apparently what I write is helpful, and so I have written some random musings. “The experience of grief is like going into space” in other words unless you have been into space you cannot truly understand, and if you haven’t …

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Holding the space

I consider myself empathetic and a good listener, but is that holding the space? I think it takes self-awareness and self-belief before we can hold the space for someone else. It means genuinely listening without judging (and that is a hard one in itself as so often our judgement stems from our own pain) it …

My lost earring

A few months ago, I noticed I had lost an earring; I had taken the pair off at night and put them on my bedside table, a few days later, one was missing. I looked everywhere, in the drawers, under the bed, I shook everything in the drawer and even hoovered it. Initially, I accepted …

Appearances are deceiving

This is a 2 part blog about my life at the moment which is on the one hand being there for my daughter and grandson and on the other dealing with my grief. I have often thought prior to even having breast cancer that just because someone looks happy it does not necessarily mean they …

Feeling helpless and navigating Christmas.

I have come to the conclusion it was easier to go through my own cancer journey than watch someone else especially when that someone is my 15 month old grandson. Theo hasn't responded to the initial chemo regime and so is now starting a much harsher one. His breathing has been compromised hence he is …